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5 Ways to Increase Your Self Esteem

Self-esteem refers to the feelings you have about yourself and the opinion you’ve created about who you are. We all feel low about ourselves sometimes. However, when this situation is long-term, we might experience mental health issues such as anxiety and depression.


Nevertheless, you can increase your self-esteem and avoid such issues. Below are x ways to do it.


1. Acknowledge and Challenge Negative Beliefs

The first thing you need to do to increase your self-esteem is finding out what negative beliefs you have about yourself and challenge them. Your negative opinions could be coming from your thoughts.

For example, you might tell yourself, ‘I can’t do that, I’m not good enough, or ‘nobody likes me. I have no friends. When you’ve identified some of the negative beliefs you hold against yourself, find out if there’s evidence to back it up. Most of the time, you will find out that’s not true.


2. Identify positives about yourself.

When you’re suffering from low self-esteem, chances are that you don’t see anything positive about yourself. Take a pen and paper and make a list of positive things other people have said concerning you. Even if they seem small and insignificant, they aren’t. When you feel low about yourself, go back to this list and remind yourself that you are so much more.


3. Leave negative relationships and build positive ones

Naturally, there are people you know who make you feel bad about yourself. It could be that friend who constantly dismisses your fashion choices, the boyfriend who doesn’t acknowledge your feelings or the aunt who says you’ll never be good enough. Avoid such people and focus on relationships with people that make you feel good about who you are.


4. Don’t be hard on yourself

No one is perfect, so give yourself a break sometimes. Self-esteem isn’t a constant thing and may vary depending on the situation you’re in. if you’re with colleagues and friends, you might feel more positive and relaxed.


Put a stranger in the equation, and you’re more likely to feel shy or uneasy. That’s ok. Everyone feels down from time to time. Stop being critical of yourself and practice more self-kindness.


5. Practice assertiveness and how to say no

When you have low self-esteem, you find it difficult to stand up for yourself or say no to other people’s demands and requests. In the end, you feel overburdened because of the weight of other people’s expectations and wants.


Unfortunately, going down this path may subject you to stress. When you act like you believe in yourself by being assertive, you increase your self-esteem.


Conclusion

Increasing your self-esteem means you’re challenging yourself to be a better version of who you are. You don’t have to do everything on your own. Remember that you can ask for help when you think you need it.






 

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