• Randall

7 Pieces of Advice for Moving in Together.

Updated: Nov 29, 2021

Moving in together with your boyfriend/girlfriend means you’re ready to take your relationship to the next level. It can be an exciting yet scary opportunity to get to know your partner better. If not well-planned, moving in together can turn into a nightmare or spell the doom of your relationship. Below are steps that will help you and your partner have a successful transition.

1. Have a Planning Session

One of the most common issues that couples fight about is money and chores. Before you move in together, it’s important to hash out all the details. Talk about whether you’re both responsible for your laundry or if one of you will do it while the other person handles other chores. Consider talking about who will pay the bills or how you will split the responsibility. Make sure you develop an agreement where finances and chores are concerned, so you’re both invested in ensuring the plan works.

2. Figure out ‘me time’

Now that you’re living together, you will spend much more time with each other. However, don’t forget that you each have individual needs. Scheduling ‘me time’ is crucial because you each have to maintain your individuality. Time away from your partner may look like catching up with your friends, going out alone, or engaging in a hobby.

3. Be flexible and open to solutions

We’re all different, and just because you’re living with your partner doesn’t mean you have to do everything the same way or together. If your partner snores and keeps you up all night, consider whether you’ll be more comfortable sleeping in separate rooms. It’s ok to have different blankets if you sleep warm and your partner sleeps cold.

4. Discuss boundaries and privacy

Communication is the key to a healthy and happy transition. You will need to communicate effectively about your boundaries. Talk about leaving the toilet seat down, your personal space in the house, or even how much nudity you will accept around the house.

5. Conflict resolution

Sooner or later, you and your girlfriend/boyfriend will have conflicts. Conflicts in any relationship are unavoidable, but the sooner you agree on how resolving them happens, the faster you can both move on to loving each other. Remember that conflict resolution isn’t only about arguing about whose turn it is to do the dishes.

What if the relationship doesn’t work out and you need to break up? What happens if you were buying property together? While it may be a difficult subject, putting it down on paper will help you avoid unnecessary drama.

6. Date night

Just because you see each other doesn’t mean date nights or movie nights are unnecessary. Spending time away from the house gives you a chance to bond as a couple and have fun Together. Even if it’s an indoor date, it will help you shut out the rest of the world and concentrate on your partner’s needs.

7. Talk about home design

You and your partner likely have different tastes or preferences in home design. But to ensure your space reflects on both of you. You have to agree on every single thing you will introduce into your home. If one of you likes posters on the wall, both of you have to be on board with it.


Moving in together comes with its challenges. However, you can still have fun. And, the best way to do it is to have honest, open conversations that pave the way for all the good times coming.

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